Maybe one already exists, but I think writing a wedding how-to from the lucky couples' perspective would be dynamite. There's no guide for malcontent vendors, no strategy for dealing with monopolist disc jockeys who hold every card, no insight about the demarcation between approaching the big day as a business proposition or as an emotional wishing well into which you toss all your coins. The businesses we're dealing with range from professional to mildly professional; it astonishes us that they can survive at what I would call substandard service levels, but with virtually no threat of lost future revenue, what incentive does a caterer have to expedite your quote or offer the slightest discount? It has been an education thus far - just under four months - and I anticipate that by July I'll have plenty of fodder for a fine pamphlet.